“ A perfect couple shares their failures, mistakes and their success equally and deal with them all as a team.” Richard DeRose
My husband’s company is based in Paris, so I’ve had the wonderful opportunity to spend the last week in that beautiful city.
While the Olympics were over, the Paralympics were still going on.
We got to see the Olympic rings on the Eiffel Tour and the balloon with the Olympic flame in the Tuileries.
Last night my husband and I attended the Paralympic track and field events at the Stade de France. It was a truly amazing experience. While the stadium was not as full as for the Olympics, it was still quite well attended, and the enthusiasm was contagious.
We watched Tatyana McFadden of the USA take silver in the 100m T54 event and the American long jumpers Derek Loccident and Jarryd Wallace take second and third place, respectively. Jarryd Wallace overtook the French long jumper who was in 3rd for most of the competition in the 5th round so there was lots of disappointment for the home crowd.
There was also the medal ceremony for Noelle Maldamaki of the USA in the shot put. It was just as emotional and meaningful as any of the other gold medal wins for the Americans.
But the most amazing event of the evening was the 100m dash for the visually impaired athletes. The athletes wore eye masks, so no one had an advantage. They each had sighted guides to keep them on track.
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These guides helped the athletes get set in their blocks before lining up next to them in their own set of blocks. They were joined at the wrists by a short cord. When the gun sounded, both the athletes and their sighted guides took off in tandem down the track.
For me, it was a perfect metaphor for marriage. The two of you are a team, joined at the heart instead of the wrist. But you’re equally involved with each other’s success.
In the Paralympics, it was apparent who was guiding who. In your marriage, you probably take turns being the guide and being guided. That’s because you each have strengths and challenges.
Where your wife struggles, you can guide her. Where you struggle, she can be your guide.
Neither of you is ahead of the other, but side by side going at the same pace.
It’s just that one of you has better “vision” in this particular area.
The athlete’s and their guides develop a strong trust. They can have no success without it. And neither can you and your wife. Trust is essential if you’re going to win at your marriage.
Another really cool thing about these events—both the athlete and the guide get medals!
So what needs to happen for you and your wife to be gold medal winners.
You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. Reach Out and let me know where your marital impairments are.
