“Silence is the language of inertia. “Margaret Hefferman
Inertia is defined as “a tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged”.
I’ve been thinking about it this week as I’ve been changing my business phone carrier.
I’ve been with the same company for at least fifteen years. I haven’t been happy with the increased cost or the loss of visual notifications on the mobile app. But nothing was bad enough for me to consider making a change.
Hence, INERTIA.
But since a new law came into effect that requires an involved process to register to be able to send texts, I have had nothing but difficulties.
This is a major company that no longer allows customers to contact them by phone. What’s worse, even trying to get a person to “chat” with is next to impossible.
And when I finally did (through a round about process), the “help” I received still didn’t solve the problem.
I even resorted to setting up an appointment with Sales to try to get through that way. And despite getting a confirmation email, the designated time came and went with no phone call.
By this time, I had made the decision to change companies. The hassle of setting up a new account and learning a new system was less than trying to work with the old company.
And companies count on our inertia to keep paying for poor or more costly service. It’s easier to let the changes go unchallenged. Until it’s not.
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Think about the last time you changed your car or homeowner’s insurance. Deleted apps and subscriptions you no longer use. How much extra money you’ve spent because of inertia.
Now think about your marriage. Are there areas you would like to change or improve but don’t make the effort because it’s too much trouble?
You know it would take time, effort, and, possibly, money. So inertia wins.
Your wife may be inertia’s hostage as well. But, are you sure? Is her pain threshold the same or lower than yours? What if it’s higher?
What if her response to tackling inertia is to ask for a divorce?
I guarantee that will have an impact on what you do. But, if she has reached the point that divorce is preferable to things staying the same, it may very well be too late no matter what action you’re now willing to take.
What would help you take action now instead of having inertia blown apart by her?
You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. Hit reply and let me know how inertia is keeping you from the marriage you truly want.
