You know things haven’t been firing on all cylinders. You know you should give it some attention but it’s working well enough. Yes, you’ve started thinking about getting a new one but this one keeps limping along and it would be a hassle to start over with something new.
Your marriage? No. My computer.
It was old. I had to keep it plugged in most of the time because there wasn’t much juice in the battery. I even had to get a special device to access the 5g offered by my internet provider. I kept putting off doing the stuff I knew I should be doing—checking features, shopping around for deals, backing up my files. There were other things that were more pressing. That needed my attention.
So, I channeled my inner Scarlet O’Hara. I’d think about it tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is another day.
I have time I thought.
Until I didn’t.
Tuesday morning, as I was setting up for a meeting, my computer slipped off my desk and hit the floor. Everything went black. I had run out of time. Tomorrow was right now.
I didn’t have time to look at options or compare prices. I needed a new computer. NOW. This limited my choices.
Is this how you treat your marriage? Like something that will always be there. Not perfect. Not even great. But serviceable. Even if it doesn’t have a lot of juice at the moment.
Too much of a hassle to focus on. You have other more pressing things to do. Work. Kids. The house. Your next race.
Your marriage will still be there tomorrow. Until it’s not.
Maybe nothing big has happened. No affair. No addiction. No abuse. Just a slow decline due to neglect.
And you might still have options. But only if you don’t wait until your marriage figuratively hits the floor.
It takes two to make a marriage work but only one to end it.
Replacing a computer is annoying. But it’s not really life altering. Ending a marriage is.
Breaking a computer, or having one just stop wear out, is inevitable. Ending a marriage is a choice.
You get to decide whether yours will by the actions you do or don’t take. With the right mindset and behavior, a marriage can not only survive, but thrive.
So, I’m curious. What would you do if your marriage broke? What could haves, would haves, should haves run through your head? If this leaves you in a cold sweat, the time to act is now. Today. Because you may not have as many tomorrows as you hope.
What would a day in your life be like if your marriage ended? What would you miss the most? Let me know.
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