by Lesli | Aug 19, 2022 | BAD MARRIAGE ADVICE
While forgiveness is both important and necessary for a healthy marriage, it’s not as simple as this expression implies. Forgiveness is a process and cannot be rushed. In addition, it may not be possible or even desirable to “forget” an incident that requires...
by Lesli | Aug 5, 2022 | BAD MARRIAGE ADVICE
If your spouse truly loved you, you wouldn’t need anyone else in your life to fulfill any of your needs. Sounds good, doesn’t it? The two of you wrapped in a bubble of complete bliss and contentment, needing no one or nothing outside of it? Blech!!!! Who comes up with...
by Lesli | Jul 29, 2022 | BAD MARRIAGE ADVICE
Betrayal, no matter what kind, is devastating. Many believe infidelity may be the worst form of betrayal. If it has ever happened to you, you know what I mean. But does it have to mean the end of your marriage? Most people think it does. Hence the common advice—once...
by Lesli | Jul 23, 2022 | BAD MARRIAGE ADVICE
You’ve probably heard the saying, “It takes two to tango”. Maybe you’ve applied that mindset to addressing problems in your marriage. Yes, it is ideal if both of you are willing to sit down and tackle any issues together. That’s the definition of teamwork. And in good...
by Lesli | Jul 15, 2022 | BAD MARRIAGE ADVICE
I used to get asked all the time what my success rate doing couples counseling was. My answer—100% with couples who were willing and able to do the work and 0% with couples who weren’t. Because I can only provide information. I can’t make someone use it. And neither...
by Lesli | Jul 8, 2022 | BAD MARRIAGE ADVICE
I still remember my client Sarah bouncing into my office claiming she had an epiphany. I said, “Great, what is it?” She said, “I’ve figured out that relationships aren’t natural.” I smiled and replied, “Where did you get the idea they were?” She is not alone in that...
