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Bad Marriage Advice #20: Marriage Counseling Doesn’t Work

Bad Marriage Advice #20: Marriage Counseling Doesn’t Work

I used to get asked all the time what my success rate doing couples counseling was. My answer—100% with couples who were willing and able to do the work and 0% with couples who weren’t. Because I can only provide information. I can’t make someone use it. And neither...

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Bad Marriage Advice #19: Relationships are Natural

Bad Marriage Advice #19: Relationships are Natural

She said, “I’ve figured out that relationships aren’t natural.” I smiled and replied, “Where did you get the idea they were?” She is not alone in that thinking.  To an extent, relationships are natural. But so is breathing and seeing. But things can get in the way of...

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Bad Marriage Advice #18: Only Couples in Trouble Need Help

Bad Marriage Advice #18: Only Couples in Trouble Need Help

Do you think Steph Curry and LeBron James continue to work to improve their games even though they are arguably the best at what they do? No, that isn’t a trick question. Yes, it relates to your marriage. My newest Lesli-ism is, “no one has to take a Relationship 101...

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Bad Marriage Advice #13: Love is All You Need

Bad Marriage Advice #13: Love is All You Need

With apologies to The Beatles, maintaining a relationship takes more than love. Most of us both love and are in love with our partners when we marry them. But it doesn’t always stay that way. That’s because we don’t learn the skills that can keep your love alive. Love...

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Bad Marriage Advice #12: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

Bad Marriage Advice #12: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

Back in 2002, Richard Carlson published Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life. It’s a short collection of 100 pieces of advice to help you stop obsessing over little things that bother...

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Bad Marriage Advice #11: Happy Wife, Happy Life

Bad Marriage Advice #11: Happy Wife, Happy Life

“I want my wife to be happy.” Almost to a man when I ask my clients what they want, I hear, “I want my wife to be happy.” And they truly do. It’s great to do things that will increase her positive feelings. But making her happiness the standard by which your marriage...

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