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Kissing: What It Reveals About Intimacy with Your Wife

Kissing: What It Reveals About Intimacy with Your Wife

Kissing, or more to the point, not kissing is often an indicator of the level of intimacy with your wife. And I’m not talking about pecks on the cheek or mouth but full-on, deep, intimate kissing. The kind you probably did when you first got together. Even if you’re...

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The Hidden Path to More Intimacy with Your Wife

The Hidden Path to More Intimacy with Your Wife

Did you know that your wife has a body part that is specifically designed for physical pleasure? That’s its only purpose. Its only reason for existing. And only women have it. It means that she is uniquely capable of enjoying physical intimacy with you. What is this...

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The Most Wonderful Time of the Year (Really!)

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year (Really!)

Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. Not only is it in the middle of my favorite season, but there are no gifts to buy, no costumes to wear, and no real decorations to put up. Just a celebration of all the things that make life enjoyable—good company, good food, and,...

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Your Wife has Desire, But Maybe Not for You

Your Wife has Desire, But Maybe Not for You

Okay, I know that sounds harsh, but it might not be as bad as you think. Because if she has any kind of sexual desire that means there is potential to improve your love life. In a recent post, I addressed spontaneous, reactive, and contextual desire. Today, I want to...

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Why Your Desire and Your Wife’s Don’t Match

Why Your Desire and Your Wife’s Don’t Match

I have said for years that the biggest challenge to a successful marriage is that you are now, always have been, and always will be two different people. And this includes how you approach sex and intimacy. In the beginning of your relationship, this part may have...

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How to Quit Defending Yourself and Stop Arguing With Your Spouse

How to Quit Defending Yourself and Stop Arguing With Your Spouse

Think about the last argument you and your partner had.  What were you trying to accomplish?  Be honest.  More than likely, you were trying to “prove” the rightness of your position, weren’t you?  On a scale of 1-10, how successful were you?  How successful have you...

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Why Your Wife Might Not Want to Sleep with You

Why Your Wife Might Not Want to Sleep with You

In one study, 39% of women and 91% of men said they usually or always experienced orgasm in partnered sex. In another survey women reached orgasm 63% of the time and men 85% of the time when they were with a familiar partner. Better, but still a big gap. One of the...

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Is It Horniness or (More Likely) Loneliness?

Is It Horniness or (More Likely) Loneliness?

Sex can be great. And if you’re not having any, it can be frustrating. Especially if you have a spouse or significant other who is sharing your life and your bed. And if this is happening in your marriage, you’re part of the almost 25% of adults who reported having no...

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Is “Weaponized Incompetence” Part of Your Marriage?

Is “Weaponized Incompetence” Part of Your Marriage?

Weaponized incompetence, also known as strategic incompetence, is pretending to be incapable or inadequate at a task so that someone else will do it for you. However good it may make you feel in the moment to avoid something you don’t want to do; it will cause...

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Who Handles the Mental Load in Your Marriage?

Who Handles the Mental Load in Your Marriage?

A 2020 Gallup Poll of 3000 heterosexual couples revealed that women continue to do more of the physical and emotional labor in families regardless of age, income, or workload. This is often referred to as mental load or the second shift. Yes, men are engaged in more...

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