Your Marriage: Paying Now or Later

Your Marriage: Paying Now or Later

“Motion creates clarity. Waiting creates anxiety.” Olly J  Several years ago my client Todd said, “My marriage is important but…..” My mind immediately went to “now he’s going to tell me why it’s not.” Because that’s what the but means. I get the same...
Be a Good Guy, Not Just a Nice One

Be a Good Guy, Not Just a Nice One

“He who stops being better stops being good.” Oliver Cromwell You’re familiar with the expression “nice guys finish last” aren’t you? Maybe you’ve experienced that for yourself at some point in your life. I’m not saying don’t be nice. I’m just saying it’s...

How Do You Experience Love?

“Where there is love there is life.” Mahatma Gandhi I’ve been working with clients around their relationships for more than 25 years. So I often think I’ve heard just about anything and everything. But last week, my client Matt surprised me. He asked—“What...
Honesty in Your Marriage is the Best Policy

Honesty in Your Marriage is the Best Policy

“People like to say that the conflict is between good and evil. The real conflict is between truth and lies.” Miguel Angel Ruiz   Is honesty in a relationship a virtue in and of itself or must it be “rewarded”? This is the question I asked myself after one...
Being an Honorable Man in Your Marriage

Being an Honorable Man in Your Marriage

“Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted in important affairs.” Albert Einstein   Being honorable has to do with people and actions that are honest, fair, and worthy of respect. When you think about how you show up in your...