“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb
Communicating is hard.
Not communicating is hard.
Staying healthy is hard.
Not being healthy is hard.
Being financially responsible is hard.
Living in debt is hard.
Marriage is hard. Or so people say.
But divorce is hard, too. It’s the second most stressful life event after death.
Life is frequently hard. But you get to choose your hard.
While making your marriage better is something you can choose to do on your own. Divorce is often chosen for you.
And once that path has been chosen, it’s almost impossible to get off.
At a minimum, you will lose half of everything you have acquired. You will lose spending time with your children every day. You may lose your home. Not to mention attorney’s fees and the possibility of alimony or other continuing expenses.
Moving Through Inertia in Your Marriage
"Silence is the language of inertia. "Margaret Hefferman Inertia is defined as “a tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged”. I’ve been thinking about it this week as I’ve been changing my business phone carrier. I’ve been with the same company for at least...
Being Right vs. Happily Married
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." English Nursery Rhyme First, I need to point out that no one—not you, your wife, me, no one—is ever right all the time. So, if you are a “right fighter” you will struggle in your marriage. And if...
Your Marriage: Paying Now or Later
"Motion creates clarity. Waiting creates anxiety." Olly J Several years ago my client Todd said, “My marriage is important but…..” My mind immediately went to “now he’s going to tell me why it’s not.” Because that’s what the but means. I get the same feeling when I...
Divorce up ends your life in just about every way imaginable.
But, Lesli, I hear you say. Isn’t marriage just as hard?
In a word, NO.
Yes, it can be challenging. But anything worthwhile usually is.
The truth is that most people, maybe you, make it harder than it needs to be. That’s because they don’t acquire the skills and tools that make it work.
When you first learned to drive, it probably seemed daunting. But with more practice and skill, it has become easy, almost mindless.
Now marriage should never be mindless, but it can be much easier. If you’re willing to learn how to make it that way.
Both marriage and divorce can be hard. But only one can be made better.
So, which hard will you choose?
You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. Reach out if you’re ready for an easier, better marriage and we’ll talk about how you can make that happen.
